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Taking Time with
Mary Lou Lord

By Jessica Killorin
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For the first time in more than a decade, Mary Lou Lord is taking a break. The sweet-voiced singer, hatched from the subway tunnels of Boston where she practiced her craft for spare change, is mastering a new skill: How to be a mom.

On New Year's Eve, Lord and longtime boyfriend Kevin Patey of the Raging Teens gave birth to Annabelle in the couple's hometown of Salem, MA. Now, five months into parenthood and riding on the success of her first major label record, the former indie-rocker finds herself packing the stroller for a walk in the park more often than penning a new tune.

"I haven't focused on music at all," she said in a phone interview last week. "It's strange ... I mean, I'm figuring out who I am without that musical part of myself."

Annabelle's arrival has brought many changes beyond parenthood. Two weeks after her birth, Lord's mother passed away. And at 34, a good twelve years into a career that led her deeper and deeper into alcoholism, Lord says she is finally learning to live sober. So, after spending most of her twenties scrounging in true indie fashion here and in London, Lord says she is relieved to ride a while on the success of her 1998 release "Got No Shadow" (Sony/Work). Success is sweet when you've paid your dues.

More than a decade ago, Lord took her guitar to the streets and subways of Boston, spending her Saturday nights playing Joni Mitchell, Bob Dylan, Sandy Denny and Shawn Colvin tunes. Long before Colvin had any notoriety, Lord saw a great musician and peddled Colvin's songs between train cars.

Meanwhile, Lord was developing her own style, which she describes as a mixture of folk and low-fi. While she is not a prolific songstress, she did CO-write half the songs that are on her latest album along with Nick Saloman of the Bevis Frond. She also covers relatively obscure current songwriters Elliott Smith and Freedy Johnston, adding her unique flair.

Her guitar-strumming and breathy, girlish voice first struck a chord with indie label Kill Rock Stars. One night at a party in Boston, Lord befriended a woman named Tinuviel with Kill Rock Stars. That summer, Lord recorded a few quiet, folksy tracks on a boombox and sent it to Tinuviel in Seattle. One of her songs found its way onto a Kill Rock Stars compilation. Sandwiched between punk rock tracks by Bikini Kill and Team Dresch, Lord's under-produced work stood out.

Shortly after the compilation came out, Lord picked up and moved West, recorded a seven-inch with Kill Rock Stars and immersed herself in the club circuit. By then, her influences had expanded to folk-punk artists like Lois, Daniel Johnston and Sebadoh.

One night after opening for Sebadoh, Lord was approached by Margaret Mittleman, a music publisher for BMG who was about to sign Beck to Geffen. Lord signed with her as well and when Beck's first album sales skyrocketed, Lord found herself besieged by record companies hunting down Mittleman's latest hopeful. Confused and overwhelmed by the offers before her, Lord held them off for a year, finally signing with Work. "Got No Shadow" hit record stores early last year.

As Lord settles into motherhood, she had this to say about being a woman, a musician, a mother and a recovering alcoholic:

Q: What was your attitude about major record labels when you were with Kill Rock Stars and has it changed since you've signed with Work?

Lord: I didn't have a major attitude about it. It was confusing, yes, and there were so many of them. When they were all approaching me, I figured, hey, this is my chance, and it may never come around again. I didn't want to not take advantage of it and then someday regret it. The timing was right and I went for it

Q: Do you think your image has changed since you signed with Work?

Lord: Well, my indie stuff definitely sounded less polished, and the new record sounds more adult. But people grow up, their tastes change. Some songs on there are downright country, and it's a very different thing than "His Indie World." But it sounds so different because it's seven years later in my life and I'm different.

Q: How has having a child changed you?

Lord: Well, it wasn't planned, but I went with it, and I really love her dad and stuff. Having a baby brings you back to your own childhood; it's a heavy thing, but a really beautiful thing. And it's made me take a break. I've never taken a break, not since I started playing in the subways years ago. I'm finding that all these things come up and you sit there with yourself and think about your own childhood. It's a little scary ... music is a great thing but it's also an escape mechanism for me. If there's something you don't want to deal with you can run to music. It's very cathartic and all, but you can really lose who you are. You escape from the everyday junk instead of dealing with it.

Q: How do you think a baby will affect your career as a musician?

Lord: I know there will be sacrifices regarding things like a tour. I won't be touring for any big stretch of time unless I get a nanny or something, and I don't see that happening. Now I have to think about who's going to watch her when I have a gig. We play mostly in clubs and it's all smoky and late when I finally go on. I'm petrified to bring her, so that part I haven't figured out yet.

Q: How did you come to deal with your alcoholism?

Lord: It's really hard to be a woman and a musician and not fall into this type of behavior because you're in clubs all the time and if you have any sense of insecurity, it's like, oh, just give me a drink and I'll be fine. But if you do it for a long time, and combine it with all the added pressures of everything else, it's really difficult to not drink, especially if your have a predisposition to be an alcoholic. All of a sudden 10 years go by and you're like, shit, I have a problem. I've really been dealing with it hard this year. I was in rehab for a month through the Musician's Assistance Program (MAP). They paid for it. Thank God for them, those guys are so great. My sobriety is the most important thing now. I got a ton of support from other musicians. Bonnie Raitt called me on the phone one day and just said "How ya doin'?"

Q: When did you first know you wanted to be a musician?

Lord: I always loved music. I associated it with happy times, good times. Things were OK when people were playing music in my house. So I bought a book, Dylan's Greatest Hits, and taught myself how to play the guitar.

Q: And then you started busking in the subways. Was it scary being a woman and doing that?

Lord: I think it's easier for a woman, really. Men tend to get harassed more by other men. I think women singing in the subways is more of a novelty. You don't see it as much so people pay more attention to it.

Q: Would you recommend it to a young female musician as a good way to start a career?

Lord: Definitely. It's reality down there. It's one of the most real things I know. I've got a few gals around here I'm showing the ropes to. I hope they stick with it. It's been great for me. I still do it on Newbury Street. Now, for me, it's a great way to practice and see old friends.

Q: What advice would you give a woman trying to get into the business these days?

Lord: Learn as much about music as you can. Listen to everything, not just one genre, and expose yourself to all kinds of different female musicians. Don't just listen to the radio. Make friends with DJs so they can make tapes for you of stuff that's going on out there. Don't ever sign anything without an attorney. And learn an instrument and don't be afraid to play in kooky circumstances. I played in the street and I've sold more than 60,000 records that way, without any air play or MTV. I think it's because I did the footwork. I stood in the subways and on street corners for 8 or 9 years. Sure you can get some hit on the radio and do everything I've done in three months, but hey, I'm proud of it. I did it. Also, don't wait for anyone to call you back. Learn and take it out and play anywhere you can. It doesn't have to be in the best clubs. You never know, if you're on some corner in Boston, maybe Seymour Stein will be walking down the street.

Q: Why didn't you write more songs by yourself on "Got No Shadow," and will you be writing with anyone on the new album?

Lord: It was scary for me to go it alone on my first album. I was like, I need a friend! That way, if it stinks, I can blame it on him. Nick (Saloman of the Bevis Frond) helped me so much, and it was a dream come true to work with him. But now I'm not so nervous. If people like it, they like it. I don't give a shit. I gotta take my kid to the park!

Q: Are you playing out anytime soon?

Lord: I have a tentative show coming up at Maxwell's in Hoboken, N.J. in July but nothing definite.
 
   

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